Well, let me just say that things are ticking perfectly around me right now...
1. I passed all my subjects this semester, which can be considered as a miracle for I never thought I'd pass maths - bloody maths.
2. My cousin graduated in high school, and will be taking dentistry.
3. I wore a skirt, and didn't feel bad about it at all.
4. I chopped my hair - again - and my head feels lighter.
5. I successfully knotted a cherry stem with my tongue for the first time after years and years of unfruitful attempts.
6. My summer will be summer school-free!
7. And best of all: I was able to write a sensible-somewhat-autobiographical article about my childhood in just 2 hours.
And Then We All Grew Up
And then we
all grew up. No more dusty hands. No more toppled cans and missing slippers. No
more winners. No more losers. After many years of silly games and playing
pretend, it’s just life.
One by one,
we went. The oldest of us all went first. Said he’d become a nurse, and he did.
Another took the same path, but she’s not working in the hospital; took some
other job somewhere. Then there was the smartest among us. Said she’d become a
doctor, and she’s working on it. The ten years hasn’t passed yet, but she never
failed to impress us whenever she visits, toting medals and achievements with
her to display in her old home. She was the third one who left.
There were a
few years interval before another went. We were still young and we still
played, but we were not as naïve anymore. The puberty bug bit us all, and there
was no cure for it. Our bodies started to change, just as how the seasons
passed.
Together, we,
the girls, teased the boys whose voices squeaked and broke every now and then.
The boys, consequently, teased us girls as our chests began to develop. No,
scratch that. The boys, consequently, teased the other girls as their chests began to develop. Sadly, I still
have a flat chest.
When it was
time for the oldest boy remaining in our group to have his circumcision, there
were a lot of questions hanging around. For the other boys, it was “Did it hurt?”, for they knew that they
were up next the following summer. For the girls, it was “Why do they have to undergo such a thing?” But most of the time, it
would be “I wonder how it looks like…”
Then when one of us girls had her first period, it
was all questions too. But unlike the thick fog of curiosity that wrapped
around the mysterious circumcision, it was something more private to talk
about, and only the ones with the guts to ask asked. “How does it feel like when you have it?” It was a boy who asked
that, and he got a slap on the face as an answer.
We all became
moodier. We all became smellier. We all grew pimples. And with all the older
kids (who would probably have answers to lessen our anxieties) in college, we
were simply clueless.
Shortly after
the oldest boy felt like he was already a real man, he got sick of us babies, and didn’t play with us again.
Like the three, he also went. But being the notorious one and the un-smartest one, he trudged a rough road,
chose the life of rock n roll over books. What he’s been through, we don’t
know. We only heard little about what he’s up to. We never talked about him
either, but in our hearts, we always knew him as our kuya, our oldest brother, and we felt sorry for him.
There were six of us left, and it was I who’ll have
to go next. Deep down, I always knew that my time to leave the group would come
one way or another. There was no running away from that fact. But my head
repelled all the thoughts about growing up. I refused to grow up. Playtime had
been so much fun that I just couldn’t let go of it in exchange of high school
text books then college thesis. I just couldn’t get how the first four were
able to stop being a kid and face the real world like an adult.
Will there be signs?
Will people make me?
Or, will I just know?
But whatever it is, I didn’t bother much thinking
about it. At the moment, I was their ate,
their eldest sister, and it was my job not to make them feel even more awful as
we begin to diminish in number. I had to make them feel that I was there for
them.
I grew taller, looked weirder, and our games carried
on. But that was until I faced the demands of high school – both social and
academic. Bit by bit, I lost time for them, my friends, my playmates, my little
brothers and sisters. More and more, I missed playtime. And without me in the
picture anymore, I just didn’t have any idea how they were doing now. I was the
fifth one to leave, and I’m going to be a writer – I think.
Over time, I’ve learned very little about how the
other five did. One stopped school – got expelled, actually, but he’s enjoying
his grade-free life. One moved out with her family, escaping her father’s
countless debts in town. Another turned out to be a beauty with guys falling on
her feet, while the youngest became the social climber. And the closest to me,
will be taking dentistry when school kicks off after the summer.
So you see,
we’re all doing fine, whatever fine means. Fate brought us together, then broke
us into pieces once again for some reason. Time passes, everything changes.
Some become successful, while some become…not-so successful. And, others just
turn out in the most unexpected of ways. It’s the sad truth that everybody
seems to deny. But at the end of the day, we all started as kids, and then we
all grew up. No more dusty hands. No more toppled cans and missing slippers. No
more winners. No more losers. After many years of silly games and playing
pretend, it’s just life.
♥Andz
